To be completely honest this story angers me because it feels like a betrayal on the gay community. But keep that arbitrary social construct of hetero-normative life away from me. Props to anyone who wants to lead a prude-y, straight and narrow lifestyle…go ahead marry that one guy, stay monogamous and adopt/in-vitro some kids…more power to you.
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I can’t stand this new generation who feel assimilation and *disappearance* into straight culture is the thing to strive for. You don’t have to do that.” And we move on. If the therapist starts to pay more attention to my genitals than I want I just calmly say, “That’s okay. I know then that my whole body is going to get the attention I want. I go to the privately owned massage places where they offer to cover you with only a towel, and are perfectly willing to not cover you at all if you request it. They wrap you up like a mummy, and uncover only the one body part they are working on, and mostly don’t even touch the middle third of your body.
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I stopped going to chain massage spas or hotel spas a long time ago. Arnau loves being a victim and all the attention he is getting from this. I don’t believe for one moment that Arnau didn’t walk into that spa with the intent of doing exactly what he did. It could be said here that Arnau’s silence was consent. Having said that, Tian may have crossed that line, but Arnau, by his own admission, did nothing to communicate what he wanted. But just having touched it while the masseur is doing his job is no reason for any guy to be upset. Lingering there is the fine line that may be crossed, and if the client doesn’t want any more contact with his penis than would come from the masseur doing his job while working on the inner thigh and pelvis, he can indicate that. Even in a non-sexual massage there may be contact with the penis.
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There are muscles all the way up the inner thigh that for a complete and non-sexual massage should be massaged. There are muscles in the glutes (the ass) that absolutely should be massaged.